Friday, April 21, 2006

"Hey, maybe I'm not gay!"

Hurricane writes about his wife:

She and I became the best of friends in college and when the relationship took a romantic turn, I was both surprised (because I knew then how difficult it was for me with women) and delighted (because, hey, maybe I'm not gay!) . . .

Even physical intimacy wasn't a problem for us for most of the marriage. We eased into it so slowly with our friendship and courtship, that when it was time to perform, I wasn't afraid. It came as naturally to me as I think it could, and I felt so close to her. In fact, the relative lack of sexual disfunction in our life is one of the reasons she never really suspected that I was gay.
This post helps me understand my husband. What I still don't understand is - What happened? Why did the "maybe I'm not gay" wear off? When did it wear off?

Maybe there are no answers here.

B

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3 Comments:

Blogger Nate said...

Hi Bea
As a bi married guy it is good to have a voice from the other side. My wife and I discuss most everything, but still hearing another perspective is good.
Keep writing and welcome to this strange little world.
Nate

Friday, April 21, 2006 10:29:00 PM  
Anonymous Joe said...

Brandon from badchristian linked his readers to yours and your husband's blogs. Thanks for these thoughts. Honesty is so much more important than anything else when it comes to our spirituality.

I'll be reading more from both of you.

Saturday, April 22, 2006 12:33:00 PM  
Blogger janinsanfran said...

I have nothing useful to say here. Have seen a number of people go through this discovery before; some came to some kind of peace and were able to move on, others got stuck in bitterness.

Will hold you both in my heart, in my prayers.

Saturday, April 22, 2006 4:57:00 PM  

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