Sunday, November 19, 2006

the advantages of being married to a gay man

i don't have to hear "touch-down" screamed from the other room
i don't have to look at him in tightie-whities
he cleans the bathrooms
he irons
he can tell me if my outfit looks stupid
he likes to shop as much as i do
he has great penmanship
we are emotionally connected
i haven't needed birth control for the past ten years
he doesn't ever look at other women

but i would trade all of this in a new york minute to catch him looking at me

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Blogger grace said...

ugh. i know EXACTLY....i mean EXACTLY how you feel honey. I will be praying for you. It sucks.

love,
pam/grace

Monday, November 20, 2006 7:43:00 PM  
Anonymous Kaliki said...

Yeah, I know how you feel, too. I finally came to the place where I decided I deserved better. But then, we were no longer emotionally connected. I didn't have that part either. So you have to decide for yourself. I have checked your blog many times to see how you are doing. Love.

Tuesday, November 21, 2006 8:15:00 AM  
Blogger Nate said...

The other day I had written a clever comment concerning my skill at folding laundry while watching a football game which Blogger seized and ate.

Coming back here today and reading grace & kaliki, I no longer am feeling clever.

Have a peaceful Thanksgiving,
Nate

Tuesday, November 21, 2006 9:37:00 PM  
Blogger grace said...

Nate,
Cleverness is one of the very BEST things about "you guys"! ;)

I say...be clever...we need that!

love,
pam/grace

Wednesday, November 22, 2006 2:07:00 PM  
Blogger Bea said...

cleverness and folding laundry :)

Wednesday, November 22, 2006 10:11:00 PM  
Blogger Flip said...

Hi Bea,

As always I really appreciate your viewpoint. I usually get a little agitated when I read what you write, which to me means I need to hear it and learn from it.

I am apparently different from Eddy in a number of ways. I don't think my wife could claim items 3, 4, 7 and 9 about me...and I've been guilty of 10 on very rare occasions although more in the form of paying attention to than just looking over.

I have definitely looked at and treated her as an object of my sexual desire...in my estimation more often than she has treated me that way.

But I must say if I thought she would trade me and our emotional connection for a man she could depend on being able to catch "looking" at her I would do everything in my power to set her free in a New York minute.

I would deserve better than that.

Thanks,

Flip

Tuesday, November 28, 2006 3:50:00 PM  
Blogger A Troll At Sea said...

Bea:

love the post, hate the resonance.

It's being the bad guy, you know.

Hope you are well.
Post is getting old, and I always worry, just because it's what I do best.

the
Troll

Monday, December 18, 2006 5:11:00 PM  
Blogger Eric said...

i was laughing right up until the end where it hit me right in the chest!

could that be what my mom felt about my dad?

Tuesday, December 26, 2006 10:19:00 PM  
Blogger Cecilia said...

I imagine this might be how my husband felt at a certain point. It was also how I felt at a certain point.

I'm so sorry.

Pax, C.

Monday, October 29, 2007 5:38:00 PM  

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