the advantages of being married to a gay man
i don't have to hear "touch-down" screamed from the other room
i don't have to look at him in tightie-whities
he cleans the bathrooms
he irons
he can tell me if my outfit looks stupid
he likes to shop as much as i do
he has great penmanship
we are emotionally connected
i haven't needed birth control for the past ten years
he doesn't ever look at other women
but i would trade all of this in a new york minute to catch him looking at me
i don't have to look at him in tightie-whities
he cleans the bathrooms
he irons
he can tell me if my outfit looks stupid
he likes to shop as much as i do
he has great penmanship
we are emotionally connected
i haven't needed birth control for the past ten years
he doesn't ever look at other women
but i would trade all of this in a new york minute to catch him looking at me
Labels: the gay thing
posted by Heidi at
8:18 PM
9 Comments:
ugh. i know EXACTLY....i mean EXACTLY how you feel honey. I will be praying for you. It sucks.
love,
pam/grace
Yeah, I know how you feel, too. I finally came to the place where I decided I deserved better. But then, we were no longer emotionally connected. I didn't have that part either. So you have to decide for yourself. I have checked your blog many times to see how you are doing. Love.
The other day I had written a clever comment concerning my skill at folding laundry while watching a football game which Blogger seized and ate.
Coming back here today and reading grace & kaliki, I no longer am feeling clever.
Have a peaceful Thanksgiving,
Nate
Nate,
Cleverness is one of the very BEST things about "you guys"! ;)
I say...be clever...we need that!
love,
pam/grace
cleverness and folding laundry :)
Hi Bea,
As always I really appreciate your viewpoint. I usually get a little agitated when I read what you write, which to me means I need to hear it and learn from it.
I am apparently different from Eddy in a number of ways. I don't think my wife could claim items 3, 4, 7 and 9 about me...and I've been guilty of 10 on very rare occasions although more in the form of paying attention to than just looking over.
I have definitely looked at and treated her as an object of my sexual desire...in my estimation more often than she has treated me that way.
But I must say if I thought she would trade me and our emotional connection for a man she could depend on being able to catch "looking" at her I would do everything in my power to set her free in a New York minute.
I would deserve better than that.
Thanks,
Flip
Bea:
love the post, hate the resonance.
It's being the bad guy, you know.
Hope you are well.
Post is getting old, and I always worry, just because it's what I do best.
the
Troll
i was laughing right up until the end where it hit me right in the chest!
could that be what my mom felt about my dad?
I imagine this might be how my husband felt at a certain point. It was also how I felt at a certain point.
I'm so sorry.
Pax, C.
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