Friday, January 12, 2007

hey, we could have a thing on the side

yesterday, i made a huge mistake

in the library (where i work) during a very slow afternoon (because the computers were down) i was joking around with a regular library patron . . . the subject got around to our spouses, and i confided that eddy and i were considering separation. he was not comprehending this because he knows that eddy is a pastor, so i whispered, "he is gay." then he was more shocked and said that he didn't believe that people are born that way (he is baptist and 50ish).

then he says, "hey, we could have a thing on the side." i laughed it off, but he was serious. he said that he could get us a nice hotel room. he wasn't getting what he needed, so he got it where he could (eew! - like does he pay for this?)

i don't even begin to think so.

the feminist in me wanted to bitch slap him. maybe i should have. i never got completely angry. but i made it clear (i hope) that it wasn't going to happen.

so it is not okay to be gay, but it is okay to cheat on his wife? he is a reasonably intelligent person. are people this disconnected? or am i just naive?

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Blogger M said...


I'd like to link to your site via mine. I hope that's okay.

Best of luck to you.

And eww with your experience with that man. People have little decency. Or standards.

Saturday, January 13, 2007 6:40:00 PM  
Blogger Paul said...

Which mistake were you referring to? Outing your husband? Turning down the proposition? Or letting the conversation progress to the point it did?

Yes, many people are surprisingly disconnected.

Tuesday, January 16, 2007 10:30:00 PM  
Blogger Bigg said...

There are a lot of creeps in the world. Being baptist (or any other religion) is no antidote to creepiness.
Being in a similar situation myself, I can relate to your husband. I am hoping for good things for you, no matter what the outcome of your situation.

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 2:48:00 PM  
Blogger Restored Vows said...

Bea -

On New Years I came out to my wife. I am VERY confused right now about our future. I have two elementary age children (10 and 12). I am on the verge of getting divorced or trying conservative Christian counseling. I fell in love (infatuation) over an ex-pastor. The major problem is that he has a partner...go figure.

Any suggestions?

Monday, January 29, 2007 11:04:00 AM  
Blogger swandive said...

Miss you.

Sunday, March 11, 2007 2:36:00 PM  

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